Our teenaged daughter was diagnosed with ADHD when she was in elementary school. She went on meds and, oh boy, the difference in behavior was night and day (I think her teacher came close to hugging me). Unfortunately, they also made her self-esteem plummet, because she was now officially “different.”
I am also ADD. I was diagnosed shortly after she was, and was on meds for years for the disorder until my husband and I decided to start having more children.
Recently, our five year old has been showing signs of having ADHD. So now I’m debating with myself over taking her to a psychiatrist and getting her diagnosed and on a meds schedule. I worry our almost four year will be the same way – though she is the most calm of the three. Can I handle three hyperactive kids? And no, it has nothing to do with their sugar intake, as I don’t stock sugary items in the house (sugary items are a treat and bought in small quantities very infrequently).
The big reason this is coming up for me is the five year is having trouble sitting still for long periods of time. Yes, we take frequent breaks because of this. But it is getting to the point where the breaks aren’t helping. She is frustrated at sitting still and writing and learning her words for reading. I don’t want reading and writing to be something she learns to hate. If she were in public school, it would be a no brainer. I’d take her to the doctor’s office yesterday. So why do I feel differently since she is homeschooled? It’s the same reason I think I should be able to homeschool, keep the house in order AND work almost full time from home – I sometimes think I am SuperMom.
I admit, I am in a quandary over the meds thing. I am really grappling with whether or not we need these medications. If they needed glasses, I would buy them. If they really need these meds, I will take them to the doctor and get a prescription.
Question: How do you know when they are really needed, and when would it just be nice to have calm kids in the house? How do I know if it is for them, or for my sanity? Can they really function fully without them….can I?